Should Color of The Skin Matter?

30 09 2007

I believe that God made man uniquely in different colors.  But it does not mean that one is inferior or superior over the other.

Naturally, a Filipino is colored brown.  That nice light brown according to them if one stays in the city and if you are darker to darkest brown, maybe you are staying in a place where you are too exposed to the sun.  I dunno where the idea of having a lighter colored skin means “beautiful” when in the Bible, it says, Black is beautiful.

Personally, while growing up, I didn’t give attention to my skin color but I always consider myself brown, (medium shade brown) that maybe when I was growing up I could be called an ugly duckling though I have a straight hair always cut to the Egyptian style and a moderately bubbly but serious personality – so no one will really take notice and mention of my skin color.  That’s it even when I went to college and when I had my jobs — nobody takes me in favorably because of my skin color.  I never use any whitening lotion or soap to alter the color of my skin.  The only unnatural thing i put on my skin was the eskinol to ward off oily excess of the cream to lighten chicken pox scars and the Johnson’s Baby oil used as my body lotion (head to toe regimen) after every bath or shower.

I am a proud Filipina with a brown skin tone.  I always think brown not until when I had friends after college that invited me to go swimming and required me to wear a bathing suit — i then discovered thru the photos that I am not brown. :(   They said, that i have a  a very very light brown complexion that Filipinos would call “maputi.”  I felt disappointed.  I always imagine to have that smooth, brown toned Filipina skin, with long black hair, and sexy body shape of (34/24/34) that would look sexy in mini skirt. LOL!

When I went to China, locals think am just Chinese because of my skin color.  Inspite I want to be acknowledge as a lao wai or foreigner but they don’t look at me coz am one.  When I go around on my own, no one cares.  They think I just look at them, except when I open my mouth to say something and they realized am a foreigner, then am given a kind stare or friendly acknowledgement even unwanted help.  They care to look at me too if I go with “real” lao wai – the one with freckled white skin, blue or hazel green eyes, and with a height that’s towering.  Like one time, my co workers are both guys from Canada and Holland and after work, we often go home together and we find the locals staring at us.  To me, I feel funny, but to them, they feel it’s disgusting.  They asked me one time, “why are these people always staring at us?”  I answered, maybe for two reasons.  One is, lucky chinese girl, going out with two handsome lao wai (they think caucasians are cool and handsome!) or two, they think that, why this two handsome lao wai going out with a local chinese girl.  And after saying that, I laugh and laugh and they joined me laughing because they find it absurb.  With my co teachers, I just take it as fun, but not with the parents of my students.  I find it insulting when a parent pull out a student in my class to be shoved into the class of co teachers (with the thought that they teach better than i do!)  Well, my boss settled that problem out but really, it was discouraging.

Lately, I went to Bangkok for a short break and I had the chance to work for a day.  My cousins told me that I had it because of my work experience in China and the color of my skin.  What?  Again — skin color?  Well, I just feel sad for a cousin who is planning to go to find a job and his color is real real dark brown.

How I wish — people are hired for their skills and ability not by the color of the skin.

Well, whatever.  I just can say now that no matter what is my shade is my brown color – am still a filipina.   And if not brown then, a fair (not white) colored filipina. :)





Christian Ways to Reduce Stress

30 09 2007

Just wanted to share this with everyone that comes by my page.  A part of the issue in the Cyberflashes this week.

An angel says, “Never borrow from the future.  If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and it does not hapen, you have worried in vain. Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice.” 

1.  Pray

2.  Go to bed on time.

3.  Get up on time so you can start the day unrushed.

4.  Say “No” to projects that won’t fit into your time schedule, or that will compromise your mental health.

5.  Delegate tasks to capable others.

6.  Simplify and unclutter your life.

7.  Less is more. (Although one is often not enough, two are often too many.)

8.  Allow extra time to do things and to get to places.

9.  Pace yourself. Spread out big changes and difficult projects over time; don’t lump the hard things all together.

10. Take one day at a time.

11.  Separate worries from concerns. If a situation is a concern, find out what God would have you do and let go of the anxiety. If you can’t do anything about a situation, forget it .

12.  Live within your budget; don’t use credit cards for ordinary purchases.

13.  Have backups; an extra car key in your wallet, an extra house key buried in the garden, extra stamps, etc.

14.  K.M.S. (Keep Mouth Shut). This single piece of advice can prevent an enormous amount of trouble.

15.  Do something for the Kid in You everyday.

16.  Carry a Bible with you to read while waiting in line.

17.  Get enough rest.

18.  Eat right.

19.  Get organized so everything has its place.

20.  Listen to a tape while driving that can help improve your quality of life.

21.  Write down thoughts and inspirations.

22.  Every day, find time to be alone.

23.  Having problems? Talk to God on the spot. Try to nip small problems in the bud. Don’t wait until it’s time to go to bed to try and pray.

24.  Make friends with Godly people.

25.  Keep a folder of favorite scriptures on hand. 26.  Remember that the shortest bridge between despair and hope is often a good “Thank you Jesus.”

27.  Laugh.

28.  Laugh some more!

29.  Take your work seriously, but not yourself at all.

30.  Develop a forgiving attitude (most people are doing the best they can).

31.  Be kind to unkind people (they probably need it the most).

32.  Sit on your ego.

33.  Talk less; listen more.

34.  Slow down.

35.  Remind yourself that you are not the general manager of the universe.

36 . Every night before bed, think of one thing you’re grateful for that you’ve never been grateful for before. GOD HAS A WAY OF TURNING THINGS AROUND FOR YOU. “If God is for us, who can be against us?” (Romans 8:31)
 

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Viva Senior San Miguel!

29 09 2007

It is our town fiesta today in honor of the patron saint – Saint Michael The ARchangel or locally called Senior San Miguel.  As a Seventh-day Adventist Church member and believer, we don’t celebrate this but we just respect those who do celebrate by greeting them “happy fiesta” or visit their home if we are invited for dinner.  It sounds funny but really that’t the way it is.  Observing those who are celebrating the fiesta, I feel that really they are having fun and they have prepared lots and lots of food for people who will gonna visit their home. 

Since birth,  this is my 3rd year plus the year i was pregnant with Dimple that am here in my hometown during the fiesta celebration.  And the truth, since birth, I’ve never gone to the center of the city during days like this.  When I was pregnant with Dimple 10 years ago, I planned to watch the street dancing performance but Dimple wanted to come out of my womb on the 26th,  so on the day of the performance(27th), I was at the hospital.  Days back, I had the chance or the time but i deprived myself because I just feel that that the political aspect of the city is not yet really at peace — so am anticipating of bombings that even Dimple, I didn’t allow her to go to the city for the fiesta programs.

I was in the city yesterday and also on the 26th and I felt that the place is not so joyous or full of festivity compared to the previous years.  Seems all people are at home relaxing and enjoying the peace that their home could give.  Maybe they also have the thinking like I do –  Walking in the center of the city to buy some groceries, i prayed for God’s protection that somehow, no one will snatch my bag, or no one will stab someone, or no one will play with miniature bombs or much more with real bombs. 

Anyway,  Happy Fiesta Iligan City!

Viva Señor San Miguel!

Maayong Iligan! 

 





Busy Friday

28 09 2007

Thanks God it’s Friday – another Friday closer to His coming.

The day at the office seems not real because the mind of the people sort of have a hangover of the holiday they had yesterday.  Most workers  wished that today become a sandwhich holiday, too, but the town Mayor disappoint them.  Anyways, I did like to work today because it is payday and this day will also be paid as am on a “no work no pay” status.

The atmosphere at home seems excited for the Sabbath tomorrow as it is the culmination of the Youth Revival Seminar and each family member is tasked to carry 10 packed lunch for the visiting brethren from all over the area around Iligan City.  I do feel excited too and wanna hear great messages – but I  can’t stand too crowded places because of the heat.  So, i plan of attending church at CMAFI.

I went shopping for food earlier for the potluck tomorrow and we are going to pack rice, bihon with sardines, fried fish, and orange juice.  Mom is gonna prepare 10 packs.  My neighbor auntie will also prepare the same number….they are excited!

The kids are on holiday today and they run around playing the whole day.  When I got home, i started screaming for them to stay put and as usual, they scared of me when am angry, so they sort of obey. :D Bad kids — they obey because they are scared!  Guess most kids does that. 

We just had dinner and I just can’t control to eat more than 1 cup of rice because of the daing.  I just loved it.  We have marinated the milk fish for almost 5 days and the meat was just soooo cured that it tastes so nice and smell so delicious when it was fried.  Sad me – can’t control the rice intake.  What i lost while i was in bangkok for 3 weeks seems coming back in few days. hehehe

Well, ALL seems well and I hope same with everyone who visits my blog today or this week-end!

Here’s for everyone –

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Happy Week-end!

 





My Desktop

27 09 2007

Thanks Jen for this tag.  It’s interesting!

my-desktop.JPGI do change my desktop views once in awhile and today with this tag, am happy to share with you the photo of me and my sweetheart taken August of last year.  Have used this photo since last week.  This is one of my favorite wall papers and it always reminds me that am inlove. char! hahahaha! It is a charcoal version of one of our “sweet” photo.   My desktop looks in clutter because of the latest photo folders which i saved here for easy access.  The most frequently used icon aside from the folders are YM, bookworm, Zuma, and Wordbiz.   The most important icon is the PLDT PWEDE VIBES CARD. without that, i won’t be here blogging from home. :)

Now am tagging Era, Mitch, and Janice and anyone who thinks this is interesting!

Start to copy here:

Desktop Free View Instruction:

A.  Upon receiving this tag, immediately perform a screen capture of your desktop. It is best that no icons be deleted before the screen capture so as to add to the element of fun. You can do a screen capture by:

[1] Going to your desktop and pressing the Print Scrn key (located on the right side of the F12 key).
[2] Open a graphics program (like Picture Manager, Paint, or Photoshop) and do a Paste (CTRL + V).
[3] If you wish, you can “edit” the image, before saving it.

B.   Post the picture in your blog. You can also give a short explanation on the look of your desktop just below it if you want. You can explain why you preferred such look or why is it full of Icons, things like that.

C.  Tag five of your friends and ask them to give you a Free View of their desktop as well.

D.   Add your name to this list of Free Viewers with a link pointing directly to your Desktop Free View post to promote it to succeeding participants.

iRonnie – I Set No Corner
Thess – Thesserie
Rebecca – Skippy Heart
Knoizki – A Dialogue With K
Beng – Kauderwelch
- domlawrenceOSB
- bluepanjeet™ | OTWOMD™
Marie @ Vanidosa Marie and Vanidosa at blogspot
Ems @ Just Let Go and Pieces of Me
Yen @ Me and Mine, Little Peanut and Our Pea in a Pod.
Alpha @ my blog
Jen @ Cellulitic Bliss, Arlene @ Life’s What We Make It, and All About Her





Unforgetable 10th Birthday Dinner

27 09 2007
I really didn’t have plans of having a birthday dinner because I was so broke yesterday. But because of someone who is very generous — she made it a point that dimple will enjoy her day as well as her cousins.
We had dinner at 7pm with beefy spag and bihon as the main dish. There were also several sweets that it really felt like it was a celebration. Our relatives around had their dinner with us and one aunt who lives up the road made it, too.
D had 1 special guest — Tan Tan. The daughter of my very generous girlfriend. There was suppose to be another friend, Patpat – but they have moved to Cagayan de Oro City.
I felt nostalgic seeing them posing for a picture because last year, there was the 3 of them. I said sorry for the very very meager preparation but i hope to make it up to her next year.
Hours later after dinner, D and I spent time together in the bedroom talking — and Oh my! I can’t believe how much she grows. I dunno exactly her height but her foot size is 36 and waist size is 24 which was my measurements when i was 18 years old. It feels like in just one day — she has grown much.
She slept so late last night and got up at 8 this morning and only spent time at home. There was no class due to local holiday. 3 hours back, she came in here and said — am so sleepy.
She said good night…and off she is now in deep slumber in dreamland.




Is She Pregnant?

27 09 2007

She’s a family.  She manifested some questionable actions lately.  Though she is close but really haven’t taken time to know her personal life.  She’s still a student and also struggling financially to finish college.  And as family, I do want her to finish up and work and make a life of her own comfortably opposite to what she had experienced while  growing up.  At least too she can help her 6 younger brothers and sister.

Is she pregnant?

I asked my mom days ago and mom answered, “i dunno.”   Wish I just have the courage to really ask upfront so that whatever should be done should be done to avoid future problems.  I don’t mean am no prolife..I am but just this is just not the right time and if ever my intution is right — just so much dreams will be shattered – AGAIN! :(

News of pregnancy can be exciting but not for her — now as in NOW nor at least before she finishes college. 

And oh my goshhh — in times like this!  Why just can’t they have protected sex? Condoms are in galore in every supermarket all over the country. Haiii

Just talking out loud.





Happy 10th Birthday, Anak!

26 09 2007

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She turns 10 today.  She made me a mom 10 years ago today. :)   I still can’t believe that am already a mom for ten years!  whattttt? 10 years. yes sampong taon na! LOL!  But really, haven’t really enjoyed that motherhood most mothers and their babies have as I am always a mom on the go.

I can remember the first time I saw her.  She was carried by a nurse to the OB Ward – which is just beside the nursery.  When I saw her, I then thought, is this really my child?  My daughter? Hmmm she does not look like me — but really, I saw in her someone who I really didn’t like that time.  She was placed beside me and I cuddled her and kissed her gently and said — hey! welcome to the world!  I got a matching picture of that moment and is kept in her big album.  She has to keep it so that she will know I gave birth to her, not another mom gave birth to her. 

Well, as you look at her now — most will say,  she was really born out of me coz we almost look the same.  I feel she has that kind of smile (easy smile) and also a bit of her face and the body profile.  Although in a way, she obviously has her da’s features, but she has also mine.  On the first few weeks, she looks different but as she grows into mnths and years – you can really see, she is her mom’s daughter. :)

Am so happy she turns ten today, although haven’t prepared anything for her.  Her bday always fall on the time when mom is broke.  But she understands — she wanted Jollibee today– but i told her, let’s just eat some long life food with your cousins para lahat masaya. :)

Happy Birthday, Dimple! I love you always.

Love, Mommy





Happy Birthday Girl!

25 09 2007

Happy 10th Birthday!
May you have many more birthdays to come.
God bless you always and be good.
Love you always —
3 apples for you in the ref. That’s all from mom this year. :)