Happy New Month!
J – U – L – Y! The RUBY month!
I love July for the following reasons:
My birthdate is in it!
Mom’s birthday, too!
Anniversary of mom & dad! (36th)
Mine & Nelson’s bf/gf anniversary, too! (4th)
Mine & Nelson’s “real” meeting anniversary also! (1st)
There are other significants but am not really pleased to mention them. LOL!
Are you guilty of this between you and your brother or sister or you have seen this pattern with your own kids?
For me, i haven’t experienced because i don’t have an elder sibling (which i’ve longed so much during my growing up years) but have seen this situation with my kid and her cousins. I’ve seen it too with my friends.
In my opinion it is not good but properly taken cared of and letting the kids understand the word “sharing” and as a parent do the “fair treatment” stuff — i guess it can be cured.
Dimple did not grow up with her brother but grew up with her cousins, my brother’s kids(2 girls & 1 boy). She was born 3 months after her first cousin was born. So whatever i pick for her, i also pick one for her cousin. They seem to be twins. But when that cousin had more siblings, just can’t afford. Can’t afford to pick 3 dresses at same time except for food. Later, i went to China to work and D was left with mom and they are all staying in one house. Normally, i had nice stuff for my kid and whatever i can have some for her cousins too. Once in awhile, i would call back home to inquire how’s my D and how is her character development. My mom would tell me that my D is always bullied. By whom? Her cousins. I asked the reason why — for alot of things! They think D is more loved by lola than them. D has this and that and they don’t have. So what they do with D’s stuff — they would get it when they are all playing and would throw Ds stuff into the canal. Pencils broken in two. Kiddie bags torn in two. Dolls got broken amrs and legs! My girl would just then cry and ran to her lola telling her lola what just happened. Some stuff of course can’t be retrieved anymore! It’s down deep into the dirty canal. Anyways, later, i did asked mom to move into another place with D. They did and the rivalry seem to lessen.
When both had to go to school, C & D will be in the same grade so i let my mom inquire about good primary school around. Sibling rivalry was the reason why i didn’t let mom enroll D in the church school. She was enrolled it MSU-IIT Cooperative MultiGrade School. Sabbath problems came up. D didn’t realized it. Later she saw kids singing in church (choir) she then told my mom, she wanna join the choir or be one of the participants in the grade school church programs…so i decided she moved to TSDAES in the 2nd year of primary school. I also went to school that time. OUr school are neighbors so at times we go to school together. I have seen she liked it there. She had made more SDA friends. During her 3rd grade, some of her classmates from IIT transferred to her school. During the 2nd and 3rd grade, what D has for school, C has it too (in my own expense) ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh. I am even the one who paid C’s tuition as my brother does not like his kid to go to another school. C even stayed at home during the 3rd grade. This year — they are now in the 4th grade, their brains are bigger and a bit mature, so they can understand it better now. I told C that not everything D has she can have. I told her whatever i can share with you — i will. She understood.
I think sibling rivalry can just be controlled by parents.
Sibling rivalry or just simple growing up together? =)
I just can’t think of the funniest experiences but i had several FUN and unforgetable times long long time ago when i was still a kid.
Thanks Era for the tag and sorry it takes me awhile do it! Was still thinking of the most but just can’t find one so let me share some. =)
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As an eldest child it is seldom for me to go out and play unlike my siblings. If i had my time to play with the other kids, it will just be for a cetain time — not all the time.
ONe day we went out to play in a vast, empty field not so far from home. We were playing tagging by with guns. hehehe. Then while walking along that grassy field, i found out there was a lot of “saluyot” vegetable that was growing and surely nobody owns it. Nobody planted it there…so i called my other companions to see it and we decided to harvest and bring it to each of our home. We were playing, so none of us have plastic bags. The boys took off their shirts to make it as carrier. So what will be for me?, i wondered. I was wearing a gartered skirt (colorful one and until now i can’t forget how it looks) and i suddenly thought…hmmmmmmmm would use this. Di pa ako dalaga sa time na yon, so i took off my skirt and made it as my carrier for the saluyot. I walked home in “red” panties. LOL! I was around 7 years old already. Shy? A little bit but i already know my mom could cook it for dinner that day and the next day because it was too much.
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We cared for some ducks. I think we had 4 pairs. Our neighbors stole one pair of them and the ducks laid eggs under their house. My mom kept complaining of the lost ducks. But i told her, our ducks is already at our neighbors yard. Mom does not like confrontation so she jst kept her cool but talk about it at home from time to time. What i did to pacify her? : i stole the eggs of our ducks. hahahaaha! They were bigger eggs than chicken eggs. I stole some and stupid me, i tried to break one of eggs. Inside was a live chick so cute but not yet fully developed. What i did? I inserted it in the hole of the crabs. Mom reprimand me about it. But i told her, “what will i do? cooked it or throw it in the garbage? Better give it to the crabs.”
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I think i was in the first grade. I already do the task of bathing my younger brother. I do it in the kitchen sink. I just love to do it. I like the time of soaping him and clean him up so much at the middle part. One day, i just felt that his middle was so cute LOL! and there was a starapple cover beside the sink. I told my brother to pee on the starapple cover. He did and i did put the starapple cover on his middle. I told him not to move and just hold it over his “monkey tail” (that’s what i call it when he was still a kid). But in awhile, he started to scream. Screaming that it is painful and itchy. When i removed the peepl — oh myyyyyy, the monkey’s tail curled into a ball and looked swollen. I was so scared. Really really scared. I washed him up so quick and pat him dry. I put creamed him up with oil and gently touched the tail with my fingers with baby oil…then powdered it. Still nothing changed. My bro is still crying. So i thought of ice — and after awhile, it was gone. I laugh so much about it later but i got my lessons learned: never to play with “tails” again. What causes the swell — the tar or the milk of the star apple.
One day she asked me, “Mom, why do i have so many dads.” I laughed out loud and answered her, “they’re not dads. They are just daddy-daddy. Not real dad. Your dad is blah blah blah…”
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